I am a huge fan of Sex and the City. Huge. I mean, I loved it from the first episode I ever watched back in 1998 and I still have Sex and the City Marathons on rainy Sunday afternoons. Little did I know that it would have the impact on society that it has, but I am sure happy it did. Finally, a show about women who have it all: successful careers, independence, incredible style *thank you Patricia Field* and most importantly, friendships. Friendships that saw the good, the bad and the ugly - and became even stronger as time went on. Yes, I know it is a tv show, a tv show in fact that is long over (insert sad face here) but probably the most realistic portrayal of women and relationships I have ever watched. (ok, leaving out the incredulous amount of Manolo's, Louboutin's and size of apartments in NYC). Real women everywhere could relate to one, or a combination of two or more of the characters eventually coming out of their own shells beginning to talk more openly with one another about everything.
I recall an episode called "Frenemies" which reminded me of what I wanted to blog about today - hence my homage and respect to the best TV show of all time. Feel free to share your favourite Sex and the City moments with me.....I am happy to relive them over and over!
It is truly amazing what you can learn about people and the role they play in your life. I just so happen to have really really Fabulous girlfriends, about five that are very near, dear and very close to my heart who have been there through thick and thin with me or should I say "Phat" and thin? tee hee... All kidding aside, no matter what, they have been there, I have loved them, they have loved me and the most important ones show support, courage and love in the most desperate of times. Even when I have been completely irrational, upset, or have stupidly caused an argument - the incredible ones remain and love me and accept me for all that I am and decisions bad or good I have made. I love them too and no matter what, I am there for those I care for, and always will be.
If you are lucky like me, you have a few really close girlfriends that have your back. The ones that you can call in the middle of the night, talk to when you need to get something out, tell you what they think no matter how harsh because they genuinely care and don't want you to look or act stupidly. The ones that will finish three bottles of wine in a night with you to talk about a breakup, the list goes on and on and on. There are many great friends I have had, that I have currently and I am sure will make in the coming years. There are friends now that I have started this blog from long ago who have shown so much support - as if we never lost touch. Truly amazing and this is the type of friend that I want to be and continue to surround myself with.
Sometimes friendships fade, you change, they change, you part ways, you grow up, you move away, your lives go in separate directions or perhaps a really huge misunderstanding has lead to the demise of the once great relationship. Regardless of the ending, I believe the friendships that you share with others have some kind of lesson and reason attached.
Being a woman, I can fully appreciate what women are capable of. We are capable of loving, caring, nurturing, mothering, multi tasking, taking care of others, listening, lending a hand when needed, showing support and all of the many wonderful things we can provide.
Then there is the other kind of friend. I am sure one or more of you have experienced the "Frenemy". The one who speaks so nicely to your face, but has nothing but insensitive thoughts, words and toxic actions that revolve around you, around others that surround them. There are women who lie, who are jealous, unhappy in their own lives and want you to be unhappy too or they are just completely two faced and miserable.
I always wonder about these women in particular, wondering why spend the energy "pretending" to be someones "friend" and then turn around and insult them or make fun of them behind their back? This happened to me fairly recently and it really struck me in a negative way. How, at 33 years old have I allowed someone like this to be in and around my circle? Such childish behaviour, it is difficult to understand. The only thing I can come up with for this type of women is a. it will come back ten fold, what goes around comes around, Karma is a beeotch etc. and b. they are so unhappy in their own life that they feel the need to speak badly about others to make themselves feel better. I really thought we got over all of that in high school or even college but I guess some women just never grow up.
With getting from Phat to Fit to Fabulous, right now I feel like I am a caterpillar. I will eventually be a super sexy butterfly. Although currently a work in progress, for my body to evolve and change, my mindset will too. My closest and dearest friend has questioned why I let certain people back in my life. I choose to give people a chance, two chances, sometimes ten chances - but to only be disappointed again. I finally see her point. In order for me to be healthy, I need a healthy mind, healthy relationships - life is just way too short to feel miserable.
By disposing of the Phony, the old bad habits, my relationships with toxic food, I have to really consider at this age who I want to surround myself with. The beautiful, talented and magnificent women who currently surround me (you know you who are) are exactly what I need in my life.
This is a dedication to them and to all the naysayers, the snickering people who act this way....please think about what type of friend you want to be or want to be thought of as.
I know my answer, I want to be remembered and thought of as loving, caring, nurturing, sometimes frustrating, silly, fun, Phat, Fit and Fabulous and to know that I was the best girlfriend and person I could possibly be - inside and out.
Love you girls, xoxo
Blog Soon,
PFF
I recall an episode called "Frenemies" which reminded me of what I wanted to blog about today - hence my homage and respect to the best TV show of all time. Feel free to share your favourite Sex and the City moments with me.....I am happy to relive them over and over!
It is truly amazing what you can learn about people and the role they play in your life. I just so happen to have really really Fabulous girlfriends, about five that are very near, dear and very close to my heart who have been there through thick and thin with me or should I say "Phat" and thin? tee hee... All kidding aside, no matter what, they have been there, I have loved them, they have loved me and the most important ones show support, courage and love in the most desperate of times. Even when I have been completely irrational, upset, or have stupidly caused an argument - the incredible ones remain and love me and accept me for all that I am and decisions bad or good I have made. I love them too and no matter what, I am there for those I care for, and always will be.
If you are lucky like me, you have a few really close girlfriends that have your back. The ones that you can call in the middle of the night, talk to when you need to get something out, tell you what they think no matter how harsh because they genuinely care and don't want you to look or act stupidly. The ones that will finish three bottles of wine in a night with you to talk about a breakup, the list goes on and on and on. There are many great friends I have had, that I have currently and I am sure will make in the coming years. There are friends now that I have started this blog from long ago who have shown so much support - as if we never lost touch. Truly amazing and this is the type of friend that I want to be and continue to surround myself with.
Sometimes friendships fade, you change, they change, you part ways, you grow up, you move away, your lives go in separate directions or perhaps a really huge misunderstanding has lead to the demise of the once great relationship. Regardless of the ending, I believe the friendships that you share with others have some kind of lesson and reason attached.
Being a woman, I can fully appreciate what women are capable of. We are capable of loving, caring, nurturing, mothering, multi tasking, taking care of others, listening, lending a hand when needed, showing support and all of the many wonderful things we can provide.
Then there is the other kind of friend. I am sure one or more of you have experienced the "Frenemy". The one who speaks so nicely to your face, but has nothing but insensitive thoughts, words and toxic actions that revolve around you, around others that surround them. There are women who lie, who are jealous, unhappy in their own lives and want you to be unhappy too or they are just completely two faced and miserable.
I always wonder about these women in particular, wondering why spend the energy "pretending" to be someones "friend" and then turn around and insult them or make fun of them behind their back? This happened to me fairly recently and it really struck me in a negative way. How, at 33 years old have I allowed someone like this to be in and around my circle? Such childish behaviour, it is difficult to understand. The only thing I can come up with for this type of women is a. it will come back ten fold, what goes around comes around, Karma is a beeotch etc. and b. they are so unhappy in their own life that they feel the need to speak badly about others to make themselves feel better. I really thought we got over all of that in high school or even college but I guess some women just never grow up.
With getting from Phat to Fit to Fabulous, right now I feel like I am a caterpillar. I will eventually be a super sexy butterfly. Although currently a work in progress, for my body to evolve and change, my mindset will too. My closest and dearest friend has questioned why I let certain people back in my life. I choose to give people a chance, two chances, sometimes ten chances - but to only be disappointed again. I finally see her point. In order for me to be healthy, I need a healthy mind, healthy relationships - life is just way too short to feel miserable.
By disposing of the Phony, the old bad habits, my relationships with toxic food, I have to really consider at this age who I want to surround myself with. The beautiful, talented and magnificent women who currently surround me (you know you who are) are exactly what I need in my life.
This is a dedication to them and to all the naysayers, the snickering people who act this way....please think about what type of friend you want to be or want to be thought of as.
I know my answer, I want to be remembered and thought of as loving, caring, nurturing, sometimes frustrating, silly, fun, Phat, Fit and Fabulous and to know that I was the best girlfriend and person I could possibly be - inside and out.
Love you girls, xoxo
Blog Soon,
PFF
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